Confrontation

Confrontation.... How do you deal with confrontation? I received a confrontational comment and it really intrigued me to post to everyone and ask what you think.

The comment that I received said, well I’ll just give you a quote from it "Someone told me recently that you said some very hurtful things to them in the past that just drove them farther away from God knowing that their pastor could have said those things out of anger."

The rest of the comment went along as a very vague statement about something that I had done. I have no clue who it was that I did this to and really I cant even think of what it is. I tell you this not because I'm mad at this comment, but because I want us to learn from this.

What do we do here in a situation like this? Did this comment help anything, or did it hurt something? What biblically needs to happen for God to bless this situation? Here is the complete post. Also please remember this is not to judge this person...or even me...its to help us understand what God wants us to do in these types of situations. What should you do if you are this person who posted this comment...what should I do?

I encourage you to read Matt 18:15-22.

I think one of the biggest problems people have with the church is all the back biting that goes on. In Matthew it is very clear if we have a problem with someone to go to him or her and talk it out. Most of the time this conflict will be resolved. If it isn’t, take someone else with you to talk it out…. and if that doesn’t work then you take the body of Christ. I rarely see the last step taken. But what that does in the process, is that the church then would know what has happened and then they would be in a place to confirm that person as unreasonable in their decision making while following Christ.

The last part of this scripture talks about how Peter asked Jesus how many times to forgive someone. Peter gives what he thinks to be his Godly answer of seven times. The Pharisees at that time would say around 3 times to forgive someone. Peter goes more than twice beyond that, probably hoping to impress God. We find out that he isn’t even close.

My last point is this…one of the biggest things that I hear as a youth pastor is that the church is so judgmental. I definitely agree with this in certain aspects such as the church judging the world. I struggle with this point though in the sense that many Christians are offended when a brother comes to them out of love and tells them something that they see them struggling with. When that person says stop judging me, I believe they are missing what the Word of God says. We as brothers and sisters in Christ are to keep each other accountable. We are to HELP each other in times of struggle. Jesus did get angry and Jesus did point out sin, but it was always in the perfect spirit of Love.
What do you think….?

The start of the Blog

Hey everyone,

I thought it would be fun to start a blog for youth, parents or whoever to share and discuss. I look for the blog to stir up conversation about youth culture and youth life.

This month, the Station has been all about relationships. A question I have for you is...what do you believe realistic dating is in your culture today? Also if you have been in youth for the last month, do you have any comments or questions about what has been said? (you dont even need to leave your name...just leave john smith or something)